*** DEBUG START ***
*** DEBUG END ***

Dreamed so about the honeymoon

03 July 2015

"If ur r wife of a martyr": Nabeelah Jaffer's story as it appears on the Guardian website

"If ur r wife of a martyr": Nabeelah Jaffer's story as it appears on the Guardian website

"FEELING alone and alienated? Stop sinning!" This turns out to be a popular recruiting slogan for Islamic State (IS), Nabeelah Jaffer tells us in a rather wonderful piece in The Guardian about women tempted out to Syria as brides of jihadis. It had been retweeted by a British Pakistani woman who now calls herself Umm Abbas and encourages other women to join her in the Caliphate:

"On Twitter, she talked enthusiastically about her journey to Isis. 'The most amazing . . . experience of my life,' she wrote, 'was crossing with a family of over 10 members who had a newborn baby with them! :)'

"Umm Abbas was relentlessly positive about life with Isis. I asked her what happened to girls who found themselves with abusive husbands: 'Dawla has the best of men,' she promised, 'and the shariah court here protects you from all types of violence.' There was a process, she . . . explained, for unmarried women to be matched with a husband.

"After being placed in a maqar [a shared house for "sisters"], a woman writes down what sort of 'brother' she wants to marry. The emir of the area matches her with someone and sets up a brief meeting, after which, if both parties are agreeable, the marriage quickly takes place. 'They will still contact ur dad,' Umm Abbas told me. But if the woman's father refused, the emir would go ahead and marry them anyway."

I shall not easily forget the opinion that a sharia court protects you from all types of violence.

The centrepiece of the story, though, was a young American woman who had turned back from her journey to IS when she got to Istanbul. "Karen", as she was named for the piece, had converted to Islam less than a year before; in high school she had been a lonely girl interested in Star Trek and computer programming. Her parents were Christians, but don't seem to have been too worried by what little of their daughter's conversion they understood, although they freaked out completely when she tried wearing a niqab.

She had flown to Istanbul with the intention of marrying a fighter she had met on the internet, who was supposed to be meeting her there. But when she got there, there was no one to meet her.

"Later, Karen did not like to talk about all the promises Abu Muhammad had made to her: it was embarrassing to think about how naive she had been. He had told her to board the bus from Istanbul to Urfa and make the 18-hour journey alone, as many others before her had done. At the other end he, or one of his friends, would be waiting to hear from her. They would come at once, and would help her to cross into Isis territory immediately. But to her, the plan seemed risky and rushed. He had told her so little. Things came to a head on the final day, when the tone of his texts became more sexual. When she confronted him, he argued that there was nothing wrong with doing, as she later called it, 'things'. They were, he pointed out, just 24 hours from being married.

"This was not, to Karen's mind, how pious and devoted jihadis were supposed to behave."

So she went home - but there is one very telling final detail. The way she rationalised the whole thing was to decide that the man she had been flirting with was not really a member of IS, but one of the Kurdish forces who have been fighting against them. So no wonder he had appeared treacherous. She has no plans to go out there again, though.

This was a wonderful example of the sort of journalism that only the internet makes possible. I know there are lots of bad forms; the appearance of "Twitter" in a headline is a sure sign of a worthless story (unless it's actually about the company). But, so far as I know, Jaffer didn't speak to any of her subjects face to face. The whole thing was worked out of long slow conversations on various social media; it's worth noting that these pseudonymous and virtual conversations produced far more honesty and insight than any number of discussions in which you know exactly who is talking. Honesty and openness is a consequence of social interaction and journalistic skill, not of any particular form of technology.

 

MEANWHILE, in reports from a rather less sinister movement that answers the cravings of misfit adolescents, The Guardian music pages report that Justin Bieber has turned up in Sydney, where he will spend five days attending the annual Hillsong conference. "It is his fifth time in the country," the paper explains, adding helpfully, "despite an interview in March last year . . . in which he said he could not remember if he had ever been."

Church Times Bookshop

Save money on books reviewed or featured in the Church Times. To get your reader discount:

> Click on the “Church Times Bookshop” link at the end of the review.

> Call 0845 017 6965 (Mon-Fri, 9.30am-5pm).

The reader discount is valid for two months after the review publication date. E&OE

Job of the Week

Appointments

The Church Times Archive

Read reports from issues stretching back to 1863, search for your parish or see if any of the clergy you know get a mention.

FREE for Church Times subscribers.

Explore the archive

Welcome to the Church Times

​To explore the Church Times website fully, please sign in or subscribe.

Non-subscribers can read four* articles for free each month. (You will need to register.)