John Chilvers writes:
DAPHNE WALES, who died on 20 March, aged 97, was a remarkable
woman in what was still very much a man's world. She was recognised
as such when the Archbishop of Canterbury awarded her the Cross of
St Augustine at Lambeth Palace in October 1998.
He had first come across Daphne when she was Chairman of the
General Synod's Board for Mission and Unity. There had been only
one lay chairman before her, and no woman had served in that
office. She had not only broken a mould, but had led the Board with
imagination and flair.
Daphne had spent her early years in Suffolk, but, when the
family later moved to Oxhey, she began a relationship with St
Mary's, Watford, which was to last more than 60 years. She taught
at the Sunday school, and was a leader in the Girl Guide movement,
becoming a District Commissioner in her early twenties. She had
been awarded a place at Cambridge University, but shortage of
finance prevented her taking it up.
Instead, she joined the Bank of England on the secretarial side,
and remained there for 37 years, rising to become one of the most
senior women in the Bank. She was a founder-member of the Christian
Union there, and was its secretary for nearly 30 years.
In that capacity, she invited leading Evangelical speakers to
its meetings, and steadily broadened its range of activities to
include weekend house-parties and overseas holidays each year,
which she organised with great attention to detail.
In 1972, she took early retirement, in order to devote more time
to the Church of England and the wider Church. A long-time
supporter of the South American Missionary Society, she became its
Vice-Chairman for eight years, and was remembered for her deep
personal concern for "our missionaries" and their individual
circumstances.
She was also a Governor of the Partnership for World Mission,
and of Oak Hill Theological College. Besides chairing the Highway
Trust, she acted as leader of many of the groups for Highways
Holidays, including those each year for the Association that she
formed for retired members of the bank's Christian Union.
Retiring from the General Synod in 1990 gave her more time to
devote to activities of her local church. She continued to lead her
Home Group, as she had for many decades, but also started "Business
Fellowship" at St Mary's, a lunchtime group for Christians working
in Watford.
"Formidable" was a word heard more than once in tributes to her,
and it well described her ability to control vigorous discussions
at the highest level. But all who came to know her recognised her
deep concern for people and her genuine wish to help everyone she
met. This continued well into her later years, which, from 2002,
she deservedly spent in the ideal setting of Cedars Village,
Chorleywood.
In the words of Lord Carey's tribute read out at her funeral,
the thread running Daphne's work for the Church was mission. She
was a woman of faith, with a personal knowledge of her Saviour
Jesus and a desire to share him with others - and also one who
enjoyed the normal pleasures of life and loved the company of
others.