A fortnight ago, we recommended ignoring the latest report from
the C of E's Faith and Order Group (FAOG), Men and Women in
Marriage (Leader comment, 12 April). Subsequent
exchanges suggest that others have shared our low opinion of the
report, although, in defence, the limited brief given to the group
has been pointed out (
Letters, 19 April).
In part, there was a problem of process. A draft appeared before
the House of Bishops in December, at a time when the Bishops were
exercised by other matters. It returned to the Bishops' standing
committee in March, and it was this committee that agreed its
publication. It was also where an early date for publication was
arranged, partly because of the availability of the Bishop of
Coventry, the group's chairman, and partly because of parliamentary
manoeuvres over same-sex marriage, which the report was produced to
inform. The early release meant that any further work on the
report's text by FAOG members was curtailed.
Had there been more time and more scrutiny, the limitations of
the report might have been recognised. For, essentially, the report
began from the wrong premise. It is true that the institution of
marriage is under threat, but from far more serious quarters than
the relabelling of faithful same-sex relationships. The Revd Dr
Charlotte Methuen, a member of FAOG, has suggested that such
relationships might be, in fact, a redemptive force in marriage, in
that they subvert "the profound inequalities between men and women
which have too often shaped it" (News, 19
April). By taking its cue from the same-sex-marriage debate,
and being drawn into tendentious pronouncements about men and
women, the report wastes an opportunity to say something positive
about marriage in relation to what would once have been termed
"living in sin". The authors elevate marriage above other forms of
relationship without ever defining it: are couples deemed to be
married if they have not passed through what the report calls "the
regulation of formalities", for example? It argues that the
Church's permitting marriage after divorce has not materially
changed its teaching. Yet the prevalence of divorce has done more
damage than any other factor to the concept of marital fidelity.
Finally, the lack of attention given to relationships before
marriage means that the report fails to address the source of the
greatest pressure on young people: the severance of sex and
commitment.
It is generally unfair to criticise a work for not being
something else. We have not dwelt on the sins of commission - the
obscure language, the unsupported pronouncements - but in this
instance, the sins of omission have created the greatest
disappointment. Marriage is a precious element in our society, and
it needs a more robust defence.